Addressing Health Concerns with a Friend

Dear Eric,

As someone who is 82 years old and residing in a retirement home, I have formed close friendships with two residents, Wilma and Janet. Among us, Wilma’s health seems to be deteriorating most rapidly. Her vision has declined significantly, and her hearing has also worsened.

Bringing up a friend’s health issues can be challenging, especially without causing them to become defensive or closed off. To approach this sensitive topic, it’s crucial to create a supportive and understanding environment.

Consider gently expressing your observations and concerns to Wilma in a private setting where she feels comfortable. Use “I” statements to share your perspective. For example, “I’ve noticed you seem to be having some trouble seeing things. Is there anything I can do to help?” This approach shows empathy and care without being confrontational.

Actively listen to Wilma’s responses and acknowledge her feelings. This can foster trust and openness in the conversation. Offer to assist in finding solutions or accommodations that might help improve her quality of life.

Encouraging regular medical check-ups and being present for emotional support can also play an important role in addressing health issues. It’s about balancing concern with respect for Wilma’s autonomy and choices.