A Different Approach to Aging and Beauty

The author’s mother, now 62, has taken a unique approach to beauty. She’s never used Botox, fillers, or even makeup. This is particularly unusual in Southern California, a place known for strict beauty standards. Here, cosmetic procedures such as microneedling, chemical peels, and LED light treatments are common practices. Her mother’s stance challenges these norms.

A Personal Choice from Early Adulthood

Her mother’s decision to avoid makeup traces back to her college years. She first noticed her disinterest when she saw her college roommate’s morning routine. The roommate spent an hour applying products, even using a safety pin to separate eyelashes. Her mother found this both time-consuming and risky. Consequently, at age 18, she decided that makeup wasn’t worth the effort.

She commented, “I understand some see makeup as art, but for me, it seemed like work.” Over the years, while others pursued cosmetic enhancements, she remained steadfast in her decision.

A Role Model Amidst Beauty Trends

The author reflects positively on her mother’s choices. While the mother avoided cosmetics, the author explored makeup during her teenage years. She used lip gloss, ventured into vibrant eyeshadow, and frequented makeup counters with friends. Her mother never discouraged this exploration, allowing her to find her path.

Despite this freedom, the author often wondered if her mother disapproved. Yet, she realized that her mother’s decisions centered on personal priorities. “For her, it’s not about good or bad,” the author notes. “It’s about how we choose to spend our time.” Her mother’s preference for reading or enjoying time with loved ones took precedence over beauty routines.

Reflections on Beauty and Time

At 35, the author still appreciates makeup for its ability to enhance her appearance. She doesn’t rule out trying cosmetic enhancements like Botox. Still, she acknowledges her mother’s values in choosing how to spend time and money.

Looking at her mother, the author sees a future version of herself without cosmetic alterations. Her mother’s appearance reflects natural progression rather than intervention. The author values this perspective, acknowledging, “Even with no changes, maybe that’s okay. I’ve seen my future, and she looks perfect.”